Is Body Confidence really achievable?
Body Confidence is something that’s being sold to us on a daily basis. With detox tea’s and healthy meal plans sometimes being the face of it. But is changing your body really the way to achieve true body confidence? With the help of the iweigh movement and focusing more on self-love I have come to realise that it’s not. The real way to feel empowered and to really love our bodies is to stop hating what we have in front of us at this very moment and to start learning how to accept ourselves.
This is by no means a sponsored post and I’m mentioning a platform specifically because of the work they are doing and how it has helped me in such a short space of time.
Have a social media cleanse.
My flatmate mentioned to me that she did this and it was at a time I was feeling particularly rubbish. Not because of my body but because I was seeing all these perfectly curated lives on instagram and was constantly wondering why mine wasn’t like that. And of course that did include my image. So I decided to have a clear out of all the accounts that made me feel negatively about myself. And that included a lot of accounts of girls in bikinis or gym wear that I don’t relate to. This was about 2/3 weeks ago now and it has already made a massive difference in the way I feel day to day. So go through the accounts you follow and be honest with yourself about which ones bring something positive to your life and get rid of the ones that don’t.
What is stopping you loving your body?
For me I’m always that 1 step away from loving my body. Like it’s almost there but I just need to lose some weight or tone up or change my leg shape and breast size. Over the last year I have been a lot less harsh on my physical appearance as I’ve been trying so hard working on the way I feel inside. And recently since taking the time to watch some amazing interviews and talks on how the media affects our perception of ourselves I have gained new insight into the way I see myself. Think about the real reasons that you are so critical of yourself and your body. And why you think that the way you look is wrong and needs to be changed. You might just see that you’re ok just the way you are.
What do you love about your body?
Watching an interview with the singer Lizzo really made me think. She spoke about a time when she was asked what she loved about her body and she became so emotional as she’d never thought about that before. It made me think about how I’ve never asked myself that question. I could easily give you a long list of everything I hate or dislike but I don’t know what I love. I ask you to join me in writing down or making a mental note of everything you love or like about your body. Even if it’s just 1 thing to start with over time it might grow.
Don’t say anything to yourself that you wouldn’t say to someone else.
I read somewhere that you shouldn’t say anything to yourself that you wouldn’t say to someone else. And it really made me think about all the horrible stuff I would say when I was looking in the mirror. From that moment on I would check myself whenever I was about to bad mouth my appearance and now I’ve almost completely stopped. By not vocalising what I thought about myself over time it stopped me even thinking those negative things about my body. The next time you’r about to be critical about what you see in the mirror ask yourself if you would say that to a friend and I bet the answer is no.